By Shirley Blaier-Stein | April 13, 2012 at 02:36 PM EDT | No Comments
If you’re an autism mom or dad, you must know what ABA stands for, right? Applied Behavior Analysis. I’m no expert but I think you can sum it up by explaining that it is based on reinforcement. The child does something well, they get positive attention or a prize; they did something wrong, they don’t get attention and absolutely no prize.
I think it’s kind of like the carrot and the stick of the old days.
Now moms, I don’t know how many of you have faced this problem I have: my husband does not follow directions. Sometimes he ignores the most simple requests. And he often does not take the extra step to create his own thinking process and apply it to problem solving, when it comes to things around the house.
Which made me think: I need an ABA system for the home.
Here’s how it’s going to work:
If he went to the grocery store and got exactly what I wanted, he should probably get a good cooked meal, right?
If he played nicely with the kids giving me some peace to write, he should get some quiet alone time as well.
If he helped clean up the house, did the laundry, cooked dinner, gave the kids their bath and put them to bed… Now that it’s late and the house is quiet… what do you think the reinforcer should be…? Any ideas?